By Lushful Team
September 12, 2023
Intimacy is an integral component of a fulfilling life. For bottoms, there is an interest in improving comfort, pleasure, and overall performance. There are various strategies that contribute to a more satisfying bottoming experience.
Bottoming refers to the act of being the receptive partner in anal intercourse. While the act can be pleasurable and intimate, it's important to prioritize comfort, communication, and overall well-being throughout the experience to help your intimate moments turn you into a professional bottom.
Before your intimate moments with someone, there are a few steps you can take to make anal sex not hurt as much, and make it a more pleasurable experience for all parties involved.
Communication: Open and honest communication with your partner is crucial when you are preparing to bottom during anal sex. Discuss desires, boundaries, and any concerns before engaging in sexual activity. This ensures that both partners are on the same page and can contribute to a positive experience, and helps to establish communication habits that can continue to occur not just before, but during and after anal sex to make it more pleasurable.
Preparation: Adequate preparation for bottoming during anal sex can involve cleaning the anal area, commonly referred to as "douching," to minimize discomfort and ensure a more relaxed experience for the bottom during anal sex. However, it's important not to overdo it, as excessive douching can disrupt the natural balance of the rectal area. Read our blog on Anal Hygiene for more details.
Relaxation: Relaxation is key to a comfortable bottoming experience. Engaging in relaxation techniques, deep breathing, and foreplay can help ease tension and promote a more enjoyable experience when learning how to make anal easier.
Lubrication: Using an ample amount of lubricant for anal sex is essential to reduce friction and enhance comfort for both the top and bottom. It can take trial and error to find the best lube for anal play. Reapply as needed to maintain a smooth and pleasurable experience.
Positioning: A crucial anal sex tip is to experiment with different positions that can help find what works best for you and your partner. When learning how to make anal sex not hurt, experimenting with different positions may offer more comfort and control during the experience. Also remember that while one position might work best with one partner, each partner you experience in life will have a different anatomy that may make a different position more enjoyable.
Healthy Lifestyle: Engaging in regular exercise, maintaining a balanced diet, and managing stress can positively impact overall sexual wellness. Physical well-being often translates to improved performance and enjoyment. For your diet, there are a few types of food that can help, especially if you are nervous as a bottom for the first time:
A Fiber Supplement (i.e. Metamucil, Psyllium Husk)
Whole Wheat Bread
In general, it is important to have a diet that is heavy in fiber to make sure you are tidy as a bottom. Another crucial tip on how to be a better bottom is to stay away from fatty foods and red meat that can make you feel bloated and heavy.
Pelvic Floor Exercises: Strengthening the pelvic floor muscles through exercises like Kegels can enhance control and sensation during sexual activities.
Mindfulness and Relaxation: Practicing mindfulness techniques, such as meditation or deep breathing, can help reduce anxiety and create a more relaxed environment to help make anal easier. It can be helpful to create a mind-body connection as well in order to help make sure you are prepared and have a deeper understanding of your own body and what makes you comfortable. While fingers are not optimal for dilating the anal sphincter, they can help your mind understand your anal sphincter’s reaction as you attempt to relax. Using lubricant on your index finger, insert it half an inch to an inch in the rectum and feel how the sphincter tenses and relaxes as you practice mindfulness and relaxation. This step towards anal as a bottom can be done with a partner or by yourself.
Toys and Accessories: Experimenting with anal toys can help you explore your body and discover what brings pleasure. Anal dilator kits and dildos come in a range of options. Starting small and working your way up is an excellent way to prepare for real action with your partner.
Foreplay: Along with communication throughout, a tip for bottoming is to engage in thorough foreplay. This can help stimulate arousal and promote relaxation, making the experience more comfortable.
Anal Botox: For many Bottoms, doing all of the above is unrealistic or isn’t enough to make bottoming more comfortable or makes it any easier. Anal Botox is traditionally a treatment for anal fissures to relax the sphincter muscle and allow it to heal. Anal Botox can be used for non-medical purposes to help make the experience of bottoming more comfortable and therefore more pleasurable for both you and your partner. By relaxing the anal sphincter with Botox, you can allow for quicker relaxation for easier penetration. Anal Botox may also help prevent fissures and hemorrhoids.
Lushful Aesthetics, NYC’s premier LGBTQ+ MedSpa offers their HoleTox® treatment to help elevate your bottoming experience. Dr. Chris Bustamante, DNP, NP-C (@injectorchris), Aesthetic Nurse Practitioner, provides a thorough consultation prior to each procedure to educate you on the benefits of anal botox and what you can expect from our HoleTox® treatment. To make an appointment, discuss pricing, or ask additional questions, please contact us or visit our website.